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Are you new to chatting? how it works on here  

joeyklovstoeat 70M
5 posts
9/5/2008 4:08 am
Are you new to chatting? how it works on here

Hi I would like to take the time to try and help out the new members to our little community. I have seen a lot of you trying to figure out how to navigate the fast and sometimes confusing nature of the beast.

First of you got to make sure you have gotten your settings right. In your account settings(these you get to by your home page or the my account on the banner) go to chat/IM options and make sure you have approved messenger pop up request by clicking the box for yes. By doing this you can make sure any request via the messenger will show up.

Next when you are chatting to be able to get those lovely little gems of private chat you need to start the messenger. You do that by clicking on the instant messenger button above the banner. Keep it running while you are here. There are 2 versions one says html under the regular launch this is for slower computers and those not to tech say it's easy to use. You can also hit launch this will start the flash version with all the bells and whistles like paging a member launching your web cam and who's on line right now based on your cupid. Now your ready to receive those messages when it come in simply hit the accept button and your off and running. It has come to my attention that pop up blockers you are running IE. in tools/ options in both IE and Firefox can be having a problem blocking the messenger from working. Try turning them off see if that helps.

You can also chat privately via flash chat mode by clicking on a member and hitting private chat button and typing to them but be forewarned this only works if Both of you are in flash chat. Now I know flash moves much faster and does have a tendency to hang up and not take your post and you end up typing it all over so you do have to watch for that happening you will find html much easier to use and see as well as simple access to the chat options like slowing the room refresh down or changing the color of your postings.
Want to get even more into the chat? Why not go on cam it's easy and can really get the attention no matter what you are willing to show. Once again start the messenger or hit the launch web cam button on top and this is important click the broadcast button and to make you really special also click the sound button so we can not only see you but hear you as well.

And finely the matter of chat room manners. Please guys a little manners here don't start yelling at the ladies to fuck you are run off to another room the second they enter a room, Yes I know there is a HUGE shortage of ladies to men in the chat rooms but be a little patient and spend a little time in the room will go a long way towards more ladies willing to visit rooms. Also to they guys here's a few little hints,
1. yes we know you are on cam the whole room knows your on cam you don't need to advertise it like a used care special if a lady wants to view your cam she will on her own you shouting look at me over and over again only annoys both them and the rest of us and just like spaming the room over and over again with the same line will get you an ignore button then the ladies will never see you at all.

2. Don't be a arm chair director, if a lady is on cam she is going to show you what and when she wants no matter how much you beg to see all of you at once just makes them want to turn the damn thing off.

3. Don't SHOUT this is talking in all caps ,yes you stand out but it just annoying as all hell and just think if everyone did it you will no longer stand out and the room is gonna fill up a lot faster with less post.

4. remember it's open chat so please say the person you are sending to in your post on sending and receiving more than one person may be asking the same person or persons the same question how can we tell who you are talking to?

5. Remember this is supposed to be fun relax enjoy yourself and don't judge others and don't be offended if you don't get talked to or your turned down.

I hope this goes a long way towards you having an enjoyable time here.

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